On the morning of April 11, I received notification of a comment for my blog post, "Great Swedish Adventure ~ Part 8." The comment was from "Anonymous," and it arrived just two days after I made the trip to LA for my interview. Upon returning home, I was feeling so wonderful, happy and appreciative of all of my experiences with the "Great Swedish Adventure!"
I was really caught off guard and felt like I had been slapped upside the head with a wet noodle when I read this particular comment from "anonymous." I originally chose not to allow this comment to go through to my blog. It is, after all, my blog and if I choose not to have drama on my blog, then I choose not to have drama on my blog! Pretty amazing, the decision is up to ME!
I realize that with the good, sometimes comes "the bad." I feel very fortunate that I haven't had many issues with "the bad" during the two and a half years I have been writing this blog. Now that I have received a negative comment directed at ME, it is all about how do I "treat" "the bad?" Spam for instance, I automatically delete. This though is different. Do I want to acknowledge this person's criticisms? Do I really want to spend time on negative behavior? Do I owe this person any explanations? My answer to each of these questions is no. I do not want nor wish to waste my time on negative criticisms.
I have decided to acknowledge this particular matter however, for a few reasons:
1. To remind ANYONE who wishes to leave a negative comment, that this is MY blog, I decide whether your comment will be shared here or not.
2. To let "anonymous" know, I do not owe you an answer nor a response to your childish behavior. By the way...What is your name? What are you hiding, anonymous?
3. Also, those who feel they need to leave negative remarks on ANYONE'S blog, just remember, every blog owner has the same rights that I do, they can choose if they want those comments to post on their blog or not.
4. The main reason I chose to respond to this ridiculous comment is because the comment was made in reference to the "Great Swedish Adventure" and I would like to set the record straight.
That being said, I have to admit I was surprised and saddened to receive this comment. It originally hurt (anonymous has no idea how far from the truth he/she really is) but now I realize the comment was more than likely made out of jealousy. Bottom line, I know the accusations are not true. Here is the comment:
"After reading your statement in Part II "There were other areas though (which I choose not to discuss) that I felt would probably hurt my chances with this great opportunity, and there were probably more of those than my one good, adventurous area". I believe you got this far by witholding information that you obviously knew would keep you from being considered. You have been in contact with family in Sweden and know a whole lot more about Sweden than you let the television folks know. You knew this would dwindle your chances as it has for others who were found to be "over qualified". I believe if you get accepted you are taking a position in the game that should have gone to someone who genuinely deserves it more than you. Someone who wants to know more about their Swedish family roots but hasnt been as successful or as fortunate as you to have found them. So tell us, as I am sure we all want to know.... what were these "other areas" that you felt "would probably hurt" your "chances with this great opportunity"? And does the Great Swedish Adventure know you are blogging about it? How do they feel about that?"
Here is my response ~
What you believe and what you know are two different things. What I chose not to discuss, I still choose not to discuss, it really isn't any of your business. I will tell you though, that anything not discussed here, the Great Swedish Adventure already knows! So, there are NO secrets from them!
Yes, I have had contact with distant family in Sweden, and no, I do not know more about Sweden than I am letting on. "Those things" I thought may hurt my chances haven't, or I wouldn't have gotten this far. "Those things" came out earlier in this competition, you are just unaware of them.
Apparently, you were told you were "over qualified" which is exactly why you have become so angry with me. The thought of being "over qualified" had never crossed my mind until now, by you bringing it up. So, because you were over qualified you felt it gave you permission to attack me and my qualifications?
If I am lucky and fortunate enough to get accepted for the show, then I will have deserved that spot! I have not and would never take away a chance from anyone else! I have never applied for anything like this, how am I to know what this show is looking for and not looking for in a contestant, any more than you? Oh, but then you are "over qualified!" Maybe you have done this before, applied for a TV show. But then maybe you have been to Sweden or have met one of your relatives from there, I have no idea. I have no more idea about that than I would know anything about what the Great Swedish Adventure is looking for in a contestant.
You can relax and not worry, the Great Swedish Adventure is aware of ALL of my blogs, and we have discussed them, actually now, face to face! The reason I chose to acknowledge this and bring it to light is because I am an honest person and am not "hiding" anything. If the Great Swedish Adventure feels they would like to talk to me regarding this, they are more than welcome to contact me, they have my number. :-) But then, maybe they will feel as I do, that you are simply jealous.
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